There’s no way to sugar coat this. My marriage of nearly 21 years is over and my XYL and I are separating. It’s been a rough past two months leading up to this (actually, come to think of it, maybe it’s been a rough few years), to the point where I’ve been physically ill thinking about everything from family to how will the grass at the house get mowed. The emotions involved are overwhelming…. sadness, hurt, anger, hate, bitterness, uncertainty….relief…. But with every chapter that ends, a new one begins.
I’ve been house and building lot hunting, and getting an education on home owners’ associations, the bane of many a radio artisan. I have a few good real estate prospects, one house in particular is ideal for an amateur radio QTH as it has a relatively high elevation, is wooded, has few other houses around, and I have information from a good source that the HOA is rather loosey-goosey. It will be quite awhile until I can get a tower up again, so it’s back to basics with dipoles strung in trees. Basics and simplicity appeal to me at this point in my life. Now that I’m in my 40s and my daughter is heading to college next year I don’t need much of a house. It seems most nice houses on the market here are just too big for me. I’m looking at house plans in case I need to construct a home, as a “Plan B” option. In any case I’ll probably settle on something that would normally be classified as a vacation cottage.
Despite the gut-wrenching situation with the marriage and my family, I’m looking forward to this transition and journey. Outside of the mundane legal and administrative tasks that need to be completed and the grieving process with myself and the family, I’m somewhat excited about the transition. While I’m losing a lot I’m gaining freedom and the opportunity to retool my life, simplify, be true to myself, and be happy. Freedom and happiness have a lot of value, more value than material items. My bucket list has expanded significantly and I plan to accomplish everything on the list these next 40 years. I’m sure there will be a significant-other YL in my future after things settle down. I hope to chronicle my journey here in the coming weeks and months.
Today I’m off from work, getting stuff done around the house and preparing for Field Day, one of my most favorite events of the year. See you on the air this weekend!